High School, the place where relationships run rampant, and too many people get their hearts broken. May they rest in peace, but in all seriousness, trying to talk to the person you like in highschool can be an extremely daunting task.
Junior Caity Law, senior Anna Shandor, junior Laureen Caliman, senior Tifanie Witsaman and junior Hannah Schreader gave their insight on what they think is the best way to go about a relationship is. So how would they want someone to approach them?
“I would want someone to approach me confidently,” said Schreader
“I would much rather be approached in person over social media, it shows extra care and effort,”said Witsaman.
Shandor said, “Sweet, like hey and start a conversation.”
As you can see the general consensus is to approach confidently and make sure that it’s in person. IN PERSON! Do not try to hide behind social media, as it may come off as insincere. This also brings us to our next point. What’s a more important quality: confidence or humor?
“I find confidence much more important than humor. Knowing that they are self aware shows that they have the ability to be aware of you,” said Witsaman
Law said, “I find confidence more important.”
“I love humor, but they should also be confident,” said Caliman
What's the take away? Well, you need to be confident if you are going to approach someone. But that doesn’t mean humor isn't as important as confidence. Humor is still essential. I mean, who would want to date a brick wall? So, what's the worst way to approach you?
“The worst way to approach me is being cocky,” said Law.
Shandor said, “If they are rude.”
“The worst way to approach me would be inappropriately or anything repetitive and annoying,” said Witsaman.
“Probably approaching as a catcall or insult,” said Caliman.
What did we learn from this? It takes a lot of courage to approach someone, so don't mess it up by doing something stupid. In general, don’t catcall or be rude. I don’t know why you would think that works, and if you do, you probably should not be in a relationship. It makes you wonder, should you move slow and steady or try to move quickly?
“Slow and Steady makes a relationship last longer,” said Law and the others.
As you can see, the general consensus is to take things slowly. So, don’t rush things! But let me tell you, if you believe it is the right thing to do then go for it. If that doesn't work, maybe come back here for some advice.
Is it ever okay to walk up to you when you are around your group of friends?
“Of course it’s okay to walk up when I have friends around me. It gives me a second opinion,” said Law
Witsaman said, “Actually, my favorite time for people to approach me is when I’m with my friends.”
“I think it's okay for someone to approach when your with your friends,” said Schreader.
This is one of the most terrifying things to do, especially when you have a group of eyes on you, but hey, points for confidence. If you think that men are always required to make the first move, you are wrong.
“Males don't always have to make the first move. If you feel confident and want someone then you should approach them,” said Caliman
Ladies, listen up, it goes both ways, but if you never tell someone how you feel, they will never know. You shouldn't always expect guys to make the first move. So if you feel a certain way about someone, you should definitely let them know.
Okay, let's be honest. We are all guilty of looking up someone on social media. We are all detectives, looking for the little things in their pictures.
“I think it's perfectly normal… to look at someone's social media before you decide to pursue them,” said Witsaman.
It’s up to you on how you want to approach someone, whether that be with humor, confidence or social media snooping. These are just tips to help you conquer some hearts.